What you have is not as important as what you do with it.

The solution you need will come when you learn to use what you have.

Think about the last few times you experienced a challenge. What was your first reaction?

If you are being honest, you would probably realise that you first tend to look outward.

Your thoughts might go along the lines of ‘how can this person or that person help me out of this?’ or even worse, find someone or others to blame for your troubles. I call it the blame culture, and it is eating through society today.

This mindset would only cause you to keep going round and round the same mountain without ever going forward.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Why? You are a unique person. DNA discovery has already shown us that.

So what does this mean for you and I?

You have something or better still, you can do something in a way that no one else can. But, the power to use it lies with you alone.

You have to first believe in yourself to be able to take on your world.


This level of self awareness can be a gamechanger if used for the right purpose.
Quit always looking outward for something or someone else to solve your problems. Quit the blame culture.

Develop yourself by choosing to learn something new often. Exercise your uniqueness by taking on and solving the ‘small problems’ you encounter daily by using what you know and have. Eventually, you will be able to boldly approach the big issues with the same gusto!

You can use what you already have on your inside to do whatever you set your mind to do.


For instance, you can learn about good financial stewardship and devise a personal plan to come out of that bad debt. You can even take on an online course if you have to!

You can read books on how to win friends, develop people skills and network. Add your personal touch and use the knowledge to grow your network and improve your relationships.

If you want to be a success, you need to use what you have to offer solutions to people’s needs.

Find a purpose that ties in with what you are passionate about and start growing your skills and abilities in that area. Then use it to solve a problem in your circle of influence.


Whatever challenges you face, learn to first look inside you for a solution or at least a workable plan before involving others.


You have so much in you that can change your world for the better, BUT it only becomes useful when you actually take your uniqueness and do something positive with it.

So, grow yourself. Be you. Do you and own it.

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This is how I learnt to feel better. Every time.

Learn to actively live with gratitude.

I don’t indulge self pity. I see it as a door way to a field of emotions that would only lead to a worse mental state.

That said, every year, there is a time I actively have to push myself to stop any indulgence of a pity party.

The process unfolds pretty much the same way every time.

The seasons change and the days get shorter. It’s a struggle to get up and the cold feels like the first time.

Exercising becomes a battle. If you work, you have to deal with the holiday shopping and presents for your loved ones and colleagues.

Soon, the irritation with people and things begin. You avoid your self reflection sessions because you don’t want a reminder of what you haven’t accomplished yet as the year draws to an end.

Then, the only place of seeming comfort lies under the those thick covers. The self pity party has begun.

Years ago, being around supportive family and friends would help me get up and out of this internal wallowing just in time to enjoy the rest of the holidays.

But, with more personal growth year after year, I learnt that people might not always be there and I really should learn to do life alone when I need to.

How did I learn to beat the process? I changed my perspective. I developed an attitude of gratitude.

I read a story where a man kept complaining of how he needed a new pair of shoes and couldn’t afford any. Everyone that would give him an ear heard his moan over and over again.

One day he met a disabled man whose story changed his perspective forever. The man simply told him he wished he had legs to even wear a pair of shoes.

Gratitude is a perspective that can change your life.

This is the perspective I learnt to incorporate into my life especially through challenging seasons.

So, when those cold and dark mornings come, I tell myself that I woke up alive and healthy and consciously choose to make the most of the day.

I change up my exercise routine to keep me motivated and remind myself of the benefits — especially being ready for the extra holiday food weight that might be gained!

I plan earlier every year for gifts so I keep my head when others are losing theirs over the holiday shopping.

I choose to be extra patient with others and even go the extra mile to tell those in my life how grateful I am to do life with them.

And most importantly, I choose to be kind to myself even if I haven’t accomplished all the goals I set for the year.

I actively keep up with my reflective sessions, having an attitude of gratitude and being conscious that I might not be where I want to be yet, but I know for sure I am not where I used to be!

This is how I have learnt to feel better. Every time.

Before you leave….

Do you feel like you are always out of time daily and want to make a change? Take the TIME CHALLENGE….Use this FREE 10-point checklist to unmake time from things that don’t add value to you and create more time for things you love!

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